Mind your own business

I don't understand why some people just can't seem to accept the fact that I'm happily in a relationship now.

Yes, i admit it's a little shaky because my bf always goes missing and I'm the type who demands 100% attention. But we've worked this out naturally. Or rather I've learnt to manage my expectations. We're still together ~ happy & in love. However we've no concrete plans for the future yet.

Anyway, back to the topic on why some people just love to kaypoh. My ex-boss kept asking me to consider S'pore guys instead. So did 1 of my ex-colleague who's now enthusiastically planning a dinner outing to intro her male friends to me. She had been psycho-ing me for weeks to get a S'porean bf instead because she felt that I'm suffering in this long-distance r/s. And yesterday my other colleague also asked me to reconsider. She knows I'm very serious about my current relationship, but told me to reconsider. She reminded me that I'd be in a different country, different culture etc...

How many times must I tell these kind souls that I know what I'm doing?

I know he's financially unstable now. No career too. Can't speak English. Can't survive in Singapore. I've to go over. No tai-tai life over in Japan for me. Limited jobs for me. Struggle with the language & culture. I was aware of these before I put my 100% into this relationship. I am aware of the challenges in keeping this long-distance r/s going.

I'm not giving up. Not now. We believe there is a future for us and we're working towards it. I want to hold on to this hope & future.....

Bad start

Monday blues. Tuesday blues. Everyday BLUE :(

Most of my colleagues weren't in a very good mood yesterday. Monday blues, made worse by our manager. So lunch was all about manager. Gossips, gossips & more gossips. She's quite a nice lady. However when it comes to work, it can be quite challenging because we've to find the missing puzzles to her instructions, and that is if we understand her instructions in the first place!

Low morale. One bubbly one leaving this thursday. Another bubbly one leaving 2 weeks later. This dept is already quite "lifeless". Without them, it's gona be worse. Will the newcomers be able to inject more life into this dept?

I had a good chat with my colleague (who's leaving) about my frustrations at work. And she admitted that the person before me left due to similar reasons. She encouraged me to move on to a bigger role, a role that's more HR in nature rather than staying in this administrator role. I hope I can move on too.... but looking at the current market now... haiz... guess I've to patiently wait till after Chinese New Year. But I don't know how long i can last. My manager's driving me crazy!!

Really bored at work today. I had things to do but it's the usual "brainless" tasks ~ prepare/send letters, filing, sort out some database spreadsheet.... SIGHZ.....

Personality Test

Tried out a personality test today.... here's the results:

Your answers suggest you are a Nurturer

The four aspects that make up this personality type are:

Summary of Nurturers
Care for the important people in their lives
Strive for harmony and avoid confrontation
Think of themselves as gentle, conscientious, and mature
May have trouble making decisions that could hurt others

More about Nurturers
Nurturers are quiet people who believe in order and diligently look after the people they care about. They focus on the needs of others and establish routines to help them meet their commitments.

Nurturers are the most likely group to say they prefer a job where the same thing happens every day, according to a UK survey.

Nurturers remember details that are important to them, such as their friends' birthdays and anniversaries. People with this personality type value others' feelings and may challenge behaviour they think is insensitive.

In situations where they can't use their talents or are unappreciated, Nurturers may feel bitter and seek support by complaining to their colleagues. Under extreme stress, Nurturers may become preoccupied with the worst possible outcome and believe that they are heading for disaster.

Because they are so caring and loyal, Nurturers run the risk of being taken advantage of.

Nurturer Careers
Nurturers are often drawn to jobs that allow them to help others.

It's important to remember that no survey can predict personality type with 100 percent accuracy. Experts say that we should use personality type to better understand ourselves and others, but shouldn't feel restricted by our results.

So, think it's true? Is that my personality?

Try it out for fun too! http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/index_surveys.shtml

Another resignation

In the one month I'm here, 3 colleagues have resigned. Half of those left are new. And there will be another batch of new colleagues to replace the 3 who resigned. What's wrong? Why is the HR dept's turnover so high? I wish I'm the one leaving....with a great job waiting for me... Sighz...I'm still stuck here.

Rotting at work

I can't believe it! I've been doing almost nothing for my past 1 month at work!!

I spend hours surfing the net, chatting online not because I want to "eat snake", but because I'm bored. I've nothing to do at work, except for filing & typing letters ocassionally. I feel stupid. I find myself becoming lazy. If this carries on, I'd lose the work momentum & end up lazing at work. In fact, I think I'm showing signs of losing the "work energy". I no longer feel a sense of urgency for things I do.

This is a big "branded" company with a workforce of 800 & a big HR dept. I thought there will lots to do, lots to learn. I like being busy. I like to multi-task, with tonnes of work screaming for my attention. I like to be empowered to make decisions, be in-charge of something. I thought being a HR Administrator here, I'd have the chance to experience all of the above since I'm supporting the 4 HR Generalists & 1 HR manager. I was wrong. All I've done in the past month was filing, filing & more filing. Most of the time I'm just surfing the net, chatting on line, acting busy.

I can't accept a work scope like this. It insults my ability & intelligence. I've reached my limit. I'm now searching for a better job, something with better prospects. It wouldn't look good on my resume that i have so many contract jobs, and I resign from this one. But what's the difference anyway if I stay on and all I can write about my experience here is "Filing & typing letters"?

Haiz... now year end... no good jobs around :(